Review: IT’S NOT ME, IT’S YOU by Mhairi McFarlane


it's not me it's youTitle: It’s Not Me, It’s You
Author: Mhairi McFarlane
Release Date: November 6, 2014
Publisher: Harper
Source: eARC via Netgalley
Buy Links: Amazon US | Amazon UK | Waterstones | iTunes | Hive

Delia Moss isn’t quite sure where she went wrong.

When she proposed and discovered her boyfriend was sleeping with someone else – she thought it was her fault.

When she realised life would never be the same again – she thought it was her fault.

And when he wanted her back life nothing had changed – Delia started to wonder if perhaps she was not to blame…

From Newcastle to London and back again, with dodgy jobs, eccentric bosses and annoyingly handsome journalists thrown in, Delia must find out where her old self went – and if she can ever get her back.


My Review:


Why did I want to read this book?

I was really curious about how Delia, the main character, recovers from such a devastating discovery that her boyfriend of ten years was sleeping with another woman. It’s just an huge turn of event in her life and I wanted to read about her journey.


What worked for me?

It’s always great to read about a journey to self-discovery, or in this case, a journey of self-re-discovery. For Delia, who has built her life around her relationship with boyfriend, Paul, it was like being thrown into a deep pool when you don’t even know how to swim, when she found out Paul was having an affair. There was this shock in the beginning, never understanding how she found herself in that situation when she didn’t see it coming (not in a million years), and then disbelief, and then being overcome with wanting to survive, learning to flap her arms in order to stay above water, and finally finding her ‘footing’ and learning how to float and swim back to the edge of the deep pool. I was with her every step of the way, cheering her on, hurting with her when the pain gets a little too much, and just feeling triumphant when she succeeds.

This was a journey of self-discovery and what a journey it was. I think the pacing was just great. Delia finds herself having to get used to all these changes and I appreciate that the author didn’t magically erased all emotions that Delia had for Paul because getting over such a long-time relationship couldn’t have been that black-and-white. And I think this was a very realistic portrayal.

I really love Delia’s character. She’s fun and smart and I really love how she thinks about her decisions and her feelings. So many of her points of view about everything just echoes with me right on. The other characters were also really interesting, especially Adam (*swoons* clue: the annoyingly handsome journalist) and even Paul, despite his infidelity. They’re all very multi-dimensional characters and this makes the story much richer.


What did not work for me?

I wouldn’t exactly say that it didn’t work for me but I had difficulty identifying with some of the British humor (I’m guessing) and British cultural references within the book although in general, it didn’t take away much from my enjoyment of the story.


My over-all take on it?

This was such a wonderful and entertaining story of a woman trying to re-discover herself after a ten-year relationship, what it means to be herself again without having that ‘other’ person factoring in to every aspect of your life. You’ll enjoy her adventures in friendships, work, and even in her love life. Try out this book, you guys.


My rating:

4-5 stars 


DisclaimerI received an eARC of this book from the author/publisher in exchange  for an honest review. Yes, these are my honest and personal thoughts on this book.



About the Author:

mhairi mcfarlaneMhairi is an internationally bestselling novelist. She’s still not quite sure how that happened.

Mhairi was born in Falkirk, Scotland in 1976. She went to school in Nottingham, studied English Literature at Manchester University and then returned to Nottingham to delight its citizens with her journalism. After roles as trainee reporter, reporter, feature writer and columnist, she realised she’d climbed to the very top of the mountain at the Nottingham Post and at age 31 decided to write a novel. Some very skint years followed, during which she thought she might’ve made a huge mistake.

Her debut novel, the romantic comedy You Had Me At Hello, was an instant hit upon being published in December 2012. It’s since become HarperCollins’ best selling ebook to date, has been translated into 16 languages and is being developed as a major feature film, with Mhairi writing the screenplay. The follow up, Here’s Looking At You, was published in December 2013 and made the Sunday Times Bestseller list.

Mhairi’s first hardback title for HarperFiction, It’s Not Me, It’s You, is published on November 6th 2014.

She’s currently working on her fourth novel, adapting You Had Me At Hello for screen and developing a comedy-drama script for television.

Connect with Mhairi McFarlane:

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